Betsi Cadwaladr University Health Board
North Wales Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service
Talking / Staying Connected
Why is talking / staying connected important?
To help keep you in good mental health, talking about your feelings and worries with a trusted person is vital.
If you are worried about something, it can really help to speak with a family member or friend who is a good listener. Being able to discuss your worries and feelings can make you feel less alone with a problem. It can help to know that someone is willing to be there for you by giving attention and listening to you.
Talking about a problem or something that’s worrying you can help you feel more supported, it can help you look at the issue in a calm and different way and help you deal with it and come up with solutions. So talking helps.
By talking about difficulties, other people can give advice. It can help you to reflect and put things in perspective, see other viewpoints and above all, give emotional and/or practical support.
It is important to know that you are not totally on your own with a difficulty. If you are feeling low, it is helpful to spend time with other people and not spend too much time on your own.
Just by talking about your worries, fears and distress with someone you can trust can make you feel better. It can also help you to get things clearer in your mind, to feel more hopeful and to think about possible solutions (Royal College of Psychiatry website).
Tips on creating the ideal environment for talking about worries
Remember, talking about something that’s stressful and bothering you is not a sign of weakness, many of us need to turn to other people for support during difficult times, it is a way of helping you cope.
However you’re feeling, you don’t have to cope on your own. Asking for help is a really brave and positive thing and help exists in loads of different forms. Examples might include support, advice, information or just somebody to talk to.
If, however, you do not feel able to speak with a family member or friend about something that’s bothering you, there are other people you can turn to, for example a teacher, GP, youth worker or social worker. Please bear in mind that each secondary school has a school counsellor and a school nurse on site weekly which you can access at their drop-ins.
You can also talk with school nurses about emotional problems as well as physical ones.
If you do not feel able to talk with someone face to face, but desperately need to talk with someone, you could contact one of the following organisations:
Childline - Freephone 0800 1111 (24 hours) www.childline.org.uk
Samaritans - 08457 909090 (24 hours, 7 days a week) www.samaritans.org.uk
Get Connected - Freephone 0808 808 4994 (7 days a week 1pm - 11pm) www.getconnected.org.uk